For a lightning talk at the ACCU Conference I wrote a little story:
It describes one person’s journey towards realising that we need to act to be kind to each other, and not to expect it to happen automatically.
In the tech community, a lot of people want to be kind, but find relating to people hard work, which can mean people are excluded when we stick to familiar groups. I think there was a widespread opinion that proper geeks were so uninterested in relationship stuff that we treated everyone equally by default, but that is clearly untrue given the makeup of many tech communities.
People are being excluded, and we need to be proactive in changing the behaviours that cause this.